This is crazy. I came all the way to the library to type up my blog and I forgot what I wanted to say.
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Sunday, September 15, 2019
Sunday, September 8, 2019
Nursing Home rant
I was talking to a friend yesterday regarding nursing homes and how to choose the best one. We both came to the understanding that generally there are no good nursing homes..
You might want to chalk this up to the recent events in my life regarding Workmen's Circle but to be honest but I think they are all terrible but sadly necessary places. Before Workmen's Circle I had my Dad at Beth Abraham. He was really there for their rebab and died about a week before the assignment ended. He had a massive heart attack. The care he had gotten was adequate. There was no reason to believe he was abused or mistreated. He stood up after having dinner and had a heart attack and died by the time he got to Jacobi Hospital.
You might want to chalk this up to the recent events in my life regarding Workmen's Circle but to be honest but I think they are all terrible but sadly necessary places. Before Workmen's Circle I had my Dad at Beth Abraham. He was really there for their rebab and died about a week before the assignment ended. He had a massive heart attack. The care he had gotten was adequate. There was no reason to believe he was abused or mistreated. He stood up after having dinner and had a heart attack and died by the time he got to Jacobi Hospital.
Monday, September 2, 2019
Thinking about the future
This ordeal with the nursing home has me thinking about the future. At some point I will get old and I have to consider what to do with myself. I have no children so I have to make a plan and write it down and keep it in case I ever become incapacitated. Here's where I am at right now:
Personally I don't want to get old. Seriously, I don't want to get to the point where I have to consider a nursing home or home attendants. I am thinking about having a living will or mandate that states that if I get a heart attack or stroke that I do not wish to be resuscitated. Especially if I am 70 years old or more. The thought is why keep me around if I am going to need care? I have come to the realization that the purpose of elder care is to get someone paid, even though in most cases the senior is receiving inadequate care. Not necessarily to the level of abuse but enough that the person getting the care is usually not happy. When my aunt was alive there were quite a few days we wondered if anybody was going to come and assist her. She was in one of the worst case scenarios in that she needed total care. She had no use of her limbs. She needed assistance for EVERYTHING. And the attendants, not all of them but a handful would occasionally no call/no show
You have to be very crafty and very early to preserve anything you earned. Property in particular. If you own a home you had better make sure someone else's name is on it or you will lose it. You should be able to pass your home to your loved ones without such a fuss.
A few years ago I had a hospital visit and I was at Jacobi Hospital for two weeks. While I was there they almost poisoned me. I documented that I am allergic to nuts and legumes and they still came around and served food that had nuts and legumes. If I have to go to a nursing home it will more than likely be because I have some form of dementia. This means I won't be able to advocate for myself. Most of these facilities have employees just going through the motions. They really don't care about food intolerances and allergies. They just want you fed so they can put you to bed.
I am working on writing out my final plans now. At least the health care proxy and living will stuff. I am even examining possible cancer care if I unfortunately get cancer. Because of Gahani (my friend who just passed away) I am seriously looking at how I would want to deal with cancer if I get it. Gahani went through a brutal recovery before he died. What's the use of going through chemotherapy and radiation treatments if my quality of life is going to be horrible?
Personally I don't want to get old. Seriously, I don't want to get to the point where I have to consider a nursing home or home attendants. I am thinking about having a living will or mandate that states that if I get a heart attack or stroke that I do not wish to be resuscitated. Especially if I am 70 years old or more. The thought is why keep me around if I am going to need care? I have come to the realization that the purpose of elder care is to get someone paid, even though in most cases the senior is receiving inadequate care. Not necessarily to the level of abuse but enough that the person getting the care is usually not happy. When my aunt was alive there were quite a few days we wondered if anybody was going to come and assist her. She was in one of the worst case scenarios in that she needed total care. She had no use of her limbs. She needed assistance for EVERYTHING. And the attendants, not all of them but a handful would occasionally no call/no show
You have to be very crafty and very early to preserve anything you earned. Property in particular. If you own a home you had better make sure someone else's name is on it or you will lose it. You should be able to pass your home to your loved ones without such a fuss.
A few years ago I had a hospital visit and I was at Jacobi Hospital for two weeks. While I was there they almost poisoned me. I documented that I am allergic to nuts and legumes and they still came around and served food that had nuts and legumes. If I have to go to a nursing home it will more than likely be because I have some form of dementia. This means I won't be able to advocate for myself. Most of these facilities have employees just going through the motions. They really don't care about food intolerances and allergies. They just want you fed so they can put you to bed.
I am working on writing out my final plans now. At least the health care proxy and living will stuff. I am even examining possible cancer care if I unfortunately get cancer. Because of Gahani (my friend who just passed away) I am seriously looking at how I would want to deal with cancer if I get it. Gahani went through a brutal recovery before he died. What's the use of going through chemotherapy and radiation treatments if my quality of life is going to be horrible?
Labor Day Weekend 2019
For the first time in about ten years I won't be at the West Indian Day Parade. It is raining today and my rules are I only go to Eastern Parkway if it is not raining and if the temperature is over 70 degrees.. The bad things is it is after 4:00 in the afternoon and the sun is just coming out. Doesn't matter. God willing I will see it net near.
I haven't written much for the entire year. Truth be told it feels like I have given up on writing. The year has been so stressful. Let me bring you up to date.
I've already documented that my mother passed away in January of this year. She picked up a nasty skin infection on her leg in December. So nasty that the hospital said they would have to amputate her right leg. Meantime the nursing home she was at evicted her as soon as they sent her off to the emergency room. It didn't matter though. The infection was so severe Mom ultimately had to go to a Hospice. At age 91 what was the use of traumatizing her by amputating her leg? I chose to let her go with dignity and with as little pain as possible. She went to Calvary Hospital and they kept her comfortable until she passed away January 16th. The funeral was two weeks later and Mom is resting with my father. I have documented most of this before.
What I haven't documented was the situation with the nursing home. This is mostly because there is a battle growing between Workmen's Circle and I. They are attempting to sue me and not Mom's estate over what she owes the home and I am counter-suing them for neglect, abuse and her pain and suffering. While Mom was at Workmen's Circle she ate, slept and apparently took pain killers but the home did very little else. Because they never got her up or walked her she lost circulation in her left leg and developed gangrene in her right toes. She had that for about three months before it was even close to being properly treated. Meaning they sent her to the hospital for an ultrasound in late October or November. Three days after her 91st birthday she was discovered to have an advanced infection on her left knee. It was presumed it was because of the infection on her toes on the same foot. While at the hospital the nurses noted the bed sores.
Dad was at Beth Abraham in 2011 and died there. He owed money but they went after his estate and it was eventually paid. Equally as important Beth Abraham did their job with him. When Dad died from the heart attack I had no reason to go after them. I could have but the motivation would have been greed.
I had to file three complaints with New York State Health and Hygiene regarding my mother. At a later date I will post the actual complaints.
I haven't written much for the entire year. Truth be told it feels like I have given up on writing. The year has been so stressful. Let me bring you up to date.
I've already documented that my mother passed away in January of this year. She picked up a nasty skin infection on her leg in December. So nasty that the hospital said they would have to amputate her right leg. Meantime the nursing home she was at evicted her as soon as they sent her off to the emergency room. It didn't matter though. The infection was so severe Mom ultimately had to go to a Hospice. At age 91 what was the use of traumatizing her by amputating her leg? I chose to let her go with dignity and with as little pain as possible. She went to Calvary Hospital and they kept her comfortable until she passed away January 16th. The funeral was two weeks later and Mom is resting with my father. I have documented most of this before.
What I haven't documented was the situation with the nursing home. This is mostly because there is a battle growing between Workmen's Circle and I. They are attempting to sue me and not Mom's estate over what she owes the home and I am counter-suing them for neglect, abuse and her pain and suffering. While Mom was at Workmen's Circle she ate, slept and apparently took pain killers but the home did very little else. Because they never got her up or walked her she lost circulation in her left leg and developed gangrene in her right toes. She had that for about three months before it was even close to being properly treated. Meaning they sent her to the hospital for an ultrasound in late October or November. Three days after her 91st birthday she was discovered to have an advanced infection on her left knee. It was presumed it was because of the infection on her toes on the same foot. While at the hospital the nurses noted the bed sores.
Dad was at Beth Abraham in 2011 and died there. He owed money but they went after his estate and it was eventually paid. Equally as important Beth Abraham did their job with him. When Dad died from the heart attack I had no reason to go after them. I could have but the motivation would have been greed.
I had to file three complaints with New York State Health and Hygiene regarding my mother. At a later date I will post the actual complaints.
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